To begin with, my aunt is a mother of two little children and she is still as youthful as them today. She tells me that after having her first child, it was life changing as any pregnancy/birth experience should be, the second follows but only a bit more prepared. During her trials of pregnancy, I wanted to know about her physical and emotional feelings she had to being pregnant. She says; "It was like finally realizing what my own mother went through for me. And as I got more and more pregnant you could say, the more I felt connected to my mom then I had ever been. Of course now I couldn't do the things I enjoyed, like skiing and mountain biking, but it was all worth it to see my very own baby."
From what my aunt shared with me, it seems there is a lot more connectedness with others around you, even if you cannot physically be right with them. For my aunt it was with her mother because they could even more now relate to each other in a more emotional way than they could before.
Neighbor (Recently gave birth):
My neighbor who is very kind and very caring explicitly tells me that her trials of birth were the most difficult thing she has ever encountered and probably will be steering away from it for a while. She says if it was not for her husband and close family members, it would of made this process ten times more worse that what it already was. To find out what exactly made her time during her time of being pregnant more comfortable, I politely asked what did someone(s) do specifically to make your pregnancy much easier? Initially she said having her husband now cook the meals and not going in for work. Than more emotionally, the commitment of her husband towards her being pregnant and making sure that everything is alright. She says; "some days I would want everything to happen, like cooked meals, cleaned house, mopped floors and my husband could not do it all, but he did best making sure that I was satisfied because he knew that I was pregnant with his child and that sacrificing his time and labor is worth it at the end."
Time and dedication is an apparent factor for those who are going through the trials of birth, and I now realize that commitment to these things are just as important because in the end is the big payoff that celebrates an introduction of "new life."
Mother (Mother of three children):
From my mom I gained a collective amount of information on how and when to decide on having a child is best time and when it is not. She tells me that being prepared to take care of your own baby is when your ready to settle down and give up any past life that will no longer fit with the future responsibility you will gain. You won't know when your unprepared, because you won't be prepared. Plain and simple. She says; "I had my first child at 18, at it was a life changer at too early of an age. I couldn't go to school and holding my job was more difficult than ever and even though family may be there for you, they have lives as well, not yours'."
From this interview with my mom I felt like it was a warning into what kind of life birth and pregnancy changes, and being unprepared for it, is a situation where you do not want to find yourself in.
What emotional feelings are shared after birth within a family?
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